Saturday, March 2, 2019

Student of Life: Student for Life

Every so often I will run into someone who expresses the opinion that clinics are a waste of time.  They will talk about the money they have thrown away to ride with this big name trainer or that big name trainer only to come away having not learned a single thing.  They ultimately conclude that their money is best spent somewhere else and that they can do a better job training their horse on their own.  While clinics are designed to be more of a survey course than replacement for weekly lessons, I do think they are very educational for horse and rider and you can learn something from every experience you have with an instructor or fellow rider, if you know how to be a good student.   I recently heard wise words from a fellow clinician that enjoys learning from other horsemen.  “I always go into a clinic with an empty cup.   That way nothing gets in the way of putting stuff into it.”   So, if want to get the most out of your clinic experience, here is how to do it!

1:  Do your research.  Before attending a clinic get a working knowledge of the clinician and the discipline that you will be participating in.  I am all for stepping outside of your comfort zone and trying something you’ve never done before.  That’s how we learn and grow and it’s definitely the best thing about a clinic.  Most clinics are meant to introduce a broad topic to a group of riders of varying experiences and skills.  It is helpful, though to have a vague idea of what you may be learning.  This allows you to have a reasonable expectation for the basic skill set you will need to be using in the clinic and the level of physical fitness your horse (and you) may need in order to participate fully.  The clinic host should have all that information for you so that you can be thoroughly prepared.

2. Prepare your horse for the clinic.  This goes along with doing your research.  Be as prepared as you can before attending a 2+ day clinic.  If you haven’t ridden in the past 2 months, spending 2 days in the saddle is going to be uncomfortable for both you and your horse.  This will limit your ability to participate and neither horse or rider concentrate and learn well when they are unprepared, sore, and distracted.   This preparation also allows you to be sure that your horse is healthy and sound.  Be sure that your vaccinations are up to date and that you are in compliance with any requirements for the facility you will be visiting.  If this is a riding clinic, make sure your horse’s feet have been attended to so that sore feet, loose shoes or long toes don’t side line you before the clinic is over. 

3. Listen without interrupting and without giving excuses.   As an instructor as well as a participant, this a big one for me.  When given instruction by a professional do your absolute best to comply.  If it is something that is difficult for you or is stretching your ability, a good instructor will see that and will help you through it.  If you spend the majority of your instruction time explaining in great deal why you are unable to execute whatever instruction has been given you will waste time, which is always at a premium in a clinic setting.  If you are scared, nervous or believe it is beyond your ability, definitely express that, but remember you are at the clinic to try new things.  This may be the time to conquer those fears.  A good clinician will keep you safe and will see your fears and your horse’s issues and physical limitations quickly.  We watch every horse that comes into the arena and it takes us about 3 minutes to identify the horse and rider pairs we need to keep an eye on.  Safety is number one, always, we definitely want everybody to be safe but allow us to help you through it by doing more listening and less talking. 

4. Be ready on time.  Unless directed otherwise, be tacked up, warmed up and ready for instruction when the clinic is scheduled to start.  If the clinic starts at 9 am, we are there ready to teach at 9 am.  If people are still lunging, doing ground work, tacking up and wandering in to begin warm up we are forced to wait until everyone is ready to begin, losing valuable time.  Ultimately it’s your time that you are wasting, but have respect for the clinician and other participants by making sure you are ready to go at the designated start time. 

5. Ask questions while attempting to avoid the large back story.   Horse people love to share.   Ask any horse person to tell you about their horse and they will wax rhapsodically until interrupted or out of breath.  I have had clients give me a 2 month history on a 2 hour old laceration going back to why the horse was moved into the pen that caused the trauma.  None of that is relevant to the question, “when did this happen?”   In the interest of time, attempt to whittle the story down to only the pertinent information that will give context to your question.  If you are asking how to do a one rein stop, we don’t need to hear about the time you were out of control on a narrow trail with one foot out of the stirrup and a cloud of bees on your tail.  Those stories are best saved for meet and greets, lunch time sharing or wrap up chats.  Believe me, I want to hear that story, but be sensitive to whether the story adds context to the learning currently taking place. 

6. Have respect for your fellow participants.  We are all on our own journey.  That has been one of the toughest lessons for me to learn as a horseman with a deep drive to learn and grow.   You may have lofty goals of precision maneuvers and flying lead changes but the lady next to you on her 25 year old draft cross may just be looking for a way to get her horse to stop when she wants it to.  Everybody has their own path, goals and journey and as long as it all leads to better partnership with your horse in the end, I’m all for it.  Both participants deserve equal time and attention from the clinician. 

7. Have an open mind.  I usually have a little speech that I share on the first day with folks that are taking my clinics.  What I say may not jive with what your trainer says.  It may be different than how you have heard it explained by other horsemen.  You may ultimately find not all of it helps you with your horse.  That is 100% okay.  All I ask is that you give it a try for the time that we are together and if it doesn’t work and you don’t like it, you never have to do it again.  There is more than one way to do everything that we do with horses.  This is an art form more than a science and we all must find our own brush.  Every clinician is doing their best to share with you the brushes that work for them.  If they end up not working for you, fantastic.  That’s something learned in and of itself.  But, you won’t know if you don’t try.  You may be surprised at what works for you in the end. 

8.  If there is specific tack suggested for the clinic, do your best to comply.   Now, by no means do we expect you to show up in brand new tack for every intro clinic that you attend.  But, if in your research you learn there is a preference for a specific tack item and you have the ability to bring that item, I highly recommend you bring it.   Ultimately my preference is that you come in tack that both you and your horse and comfortable and confident in, but sometimes different tack choices make different exercises more easily understood for the horse.  If your desire to ride one handed in reins and a romel interferes with my ability to teach you and your horse lateral bend we are both going to be dissatisfied with the clinic experience. 

9.  Watch and learn.  This is a big one, especially for the types of clinics that we teach.  Unfortunately in most clinic settings there is a good deal of standing around and waiting your turn for individual instruction.  You have two options during that time.  You can work independently on something that was instructed upon earlier in the day, or you can watch your fellow participant be instructed.  Both activities can be benefial depending on your goals and the format of the clinic.  What isn’t helpful is chatting with your neighbor, checking your phone or sitting in the shade.  When I ride in a clinic I learn the most from watching the instruction of the other riders.  I can give my entire attention to what is happening without trying to listen, ride, and concentrate like I do during my turn.  I can put myself in that rider’s shoes and watch how the instructor attempts to help with a problem I may be experiencing now or will experience in the future.  Watching your fellow riders is instrumental to your growth AND helps keep the clinician from repeating instructions over and over again for the same rider mistake! Especially if there is a pattern to be ridden. 

Taking a clinic is an excellent opportunity for you to try new things, meet new people and spend a fabulous couple of days with your horse.  It opens you up to new ways of looking at things and it’s usually a great experience in socialization for your horse.  It’s also generally cheaper than a horse show!  I have had clinics I LOVED and clinics that weren’t so hot and one that changed my life forever.  I have learned something valuable at every one.  Get out there and let yourself explore and learn.  Empty your cup.  Who knows where it might take you!  Happy Trails! 

Unpack the Bags

We all have our histories that help make us who we are.  Our stories and our past experiences shape the way that we approach relationships and how we process the world.  Our fears, perceptions and misperceptions become the face of how we interact with those around us.  Our horses are the same.  Every horse has a reason for the way they behave and perceive the world.   For many they are simply acting on the foundation of years of social evolution and the hard wiring that makes them a species described as a fight or flight.  The tendency to swing more towards the flight than the fight is an individual variation that may be a product of experience but may also just be who that horse is on the inside. 

As a veterinarian as well as a Cowboy Dressage instructor I encounter horses in my life daily that I do not know.  Sometimes the owners are anxious to tell me every detail known or presumed about the horse to aid in my interaction with the horse, and sometimes they let me figure it out on my own.  This is the same way that we as people must learn to interact with others of our species.  When you meet a new person, you feel your way along with polite societal caution until you understand a little more about how that person thinks and interacts.  Rarely do we receive a full history before meeting someone for the first time. 

Sometimes I find a detailed history with a horse to be a detriment to furthering the relationship between horse and rider.  Maybe you and the horse have shared a bad experience with an object, say an oral dosing syringe.  You decide the horse has a fear or dislike of oral dosing syringes.  You may wonder if the horse was abused, twitched, cowboyed or rodeoed with a dosing syringe.  Due to that perception you may decide it isn’t worth the hassle to attempt to correct the problem and go to alternative routes of administration of oral medications.  What tends to happen in my line of work is the owner may ask me to administer the medication in the course of my exam or treatment and then is dismayed when I didn’t have any trouble.  The reason?  I didn’t expect to have any trouble.

Now, don’t get me wrong.  I am not saying that I can magically walk up to any horse at any time and smoothly and efficiently administer an oral medication.  If I ever get to that point, I think I will be able to retire happily as the Horse Whispering Vet and sit back and let the royalties come pouring in.  Sometimes those aversions take days, weeks or months of careful training or retraining until the horse can accept whatever they are averse to accept.  Where I am often successful when owners are not is when they expect the horse to be difficult to deworm and the horse obliges, often resulting in a bit of a tussle and often some derogative name calling (from both parties, I am sure) and the owner and horse end the episode thankful that we no longer deworm every 8 weeks. 

You see, when we have a thorough knowledge of all the mishaps of yesterday and can mentally picture all the ways that things have gone wrong in the past with whatever we are attempting to do with our horses we project that negative association onto the horse.  Horses are so sensitive to our intentions and our motivations.  Every horse has a doctorate in body language while we are still wallowing around in middle school (and for some new to horses in kindergarten).   This is true for handling our horses on the ground as well as for events under saddle.  If you see something on the trail which you assume your horse will spook at he will almost always prove you right. 

While it is true that horses can carry baggage from the past into our daily interactions, they can also be taught to forget that pain or fear when it is consistently replaced with new experiences.  It takes time and patience but surprisingly it doesn’t necessarily take knowledge of the inciting incident.  The true horseman is the one that approaches the horse with confidence and quiet leadership remaining calm and free of crippling emotions when the horse is nervous, worried or scared. 

Since the economic crash of 2007 and the end of humane equine slaughter in the United States we have seen an uptick in the equine rescue industry.  Horses that were once starved or neglected have been given a second chance by horse people with large hearts.  Owners of these rescued horses can be very protective of them and will be the first to inform me to be careful when dealing with the horse, “because, it’s a rescue and I don’t know what happened to him before.”  I should probably tell you that hearing those words changes the way I approach a horse but it generally does not (unless the horse is overtly fearful).  What I may do in those situations is to ask the owner to hand the horse over to my assistant who also has no expectations of the horse other than for it to be good during my examination.  I will tell the owners (I’m letting you on trade secrets here!) that I would prefer not to have them associated with anything “bad” the horse is experiencing so the horse doesn’t blame them later.  Many owners are more than ready to step aside because they have been afraid of just that very thing! Then my assistant and I go about business as usual and the horse doesn’t know any different. 

Another projection we will see from owners onto their horses is to create a trauma for anything for which the horse is unaccepting.  For example, it is quite common for many horses to have trouble with their ears being handled.  An owner new to a horse that dislikes his ears being handled will often tell me, “Somebody must have ‘eared this horse down’ because you can’t touch his ears.”  Maybe, they have sensitive ears. Maybe, they experienced a bad bug season causing aural plaques that can be quite sensitive.  Maybe, they just never had their ears handled before and learned that raising the head prevents them being handled.  And, yes, maybe, they were roughly handled at some point.  All those things cause the same problem requiring the same response.  Careful, consistent, polite handling of the ears until the aversion, bad memory or previous pain is forgotten and replaced with good memories corrects the problem regardless of the cause.  It simply doesn’t matter how the problem got there.  What matters is how we help the horse to get through that problem to a better place. 

We all would like to be taken at face value, for the person that we are in that moment in time and not judged for our past deeds.  Our horses are the same.  They would like us to politely and confidently approach them with an open heart one step at a time assessing their reactions, fears, and sensitivities as they occur and only as they occur.  We can raise our expectations for our horses when we forgive them and forget their past and invite them to forget the past as well. Ultimately, yes, horses can carry baggage with them into their new lives.  Every horse and every person are a product of their experiences.  It is up to us, as their leaders and partners to either choose to forgive and forget that baggage or pick it up and carry it with us for the rest of our lives together.  Every day is a brand-new day to the horse.  It is a chance to begin anew and it is that resurgent feeling of hope that brings us addicts back again and again.  We are endlessly addicted to the potential in the horse for improvement in our partnership.  Work the horse you have in front of you, no matter what happened yesterday, last week, or 3 years ago.  Your horse will go forward faster without the heavy bags of the past.